I have just finished reading 2 life-changing books,”The Law of Divine Compensation" by Marianne Williamson and “The Anatomy of a Calling” by Lissa Rankin and I am reminded about my purpose on this earth to spread love and just be “me”.
We ALL have beautiful gifts, talents and a destiny that not only feeds our soul to self-actualize but, also, contributes to the world in ways exponentially greater than doing something just for the sake of doing it. So many people dread their work, drag themselves through their day and despise their life – but that is no way to live.
When I closed my private medical practice, I struggled with my identity, having spent most of my life believing that I WAS my medical degree. I needed those tremendous accomplishments to feel whole and fulfilled. I was unprepared for the insecurity that would come by putting down that veneer. When my father described me as “retired”, I stiffened with self-doubt. Despite my sense of discomfort and the fog in front of me, there was a certainty that I will never be able to fully understand or explain. Medicine, as I have been trained to practice it, had become such a small part of my day-to-day life that letting go was a necessary step in my journey to true happiness. The healthcare system, as it is currently set up, is failing both physicians and patients and I began to feel misaligned with my non-negotiable core values: “do no harm” and “put people first”. But it wasn’t easy and I continue to be amazed at the ways the Universe stepped up to support me during my most confused moments.
When we have the advantage of looking back, it becomes so obvious why things happen the way they do. Listening to your inner guidance, your Universe, your God, when done with an open heart, centered on love, kindness and the greater good – will never let you down.
That doesn’t mean it all comes easy – but it does mean that it feels aligned, at all times, with a purpose and a path so deeply in-tuned with who you are that answers surface exactly when you need them. Having faith in the process is the only requirement.
The biggest thing that I have learned over the last 1.5 years since making that life-changing decision is that I can have confidence in a “knowing” that the world is a friendly place and that everything happens for a reason and that even when we don’t know what that reason is – eventually, it will all make sense.
Retrospectively, this life experience was absolutely necessary for me to become who I am today and has strengthened my ability to help others. In 15 years of medical practice and with my ongoing medical consulting work, I see so many women living in fear. Sadly, their fear is holding them back from living life with joy, vitality, energy and overflowing love. It saps their ability to be present, to see the miracles that happen every day, to love themselves unconditionally. They are missing their life!
My passion has become a deep desire to help women realize that their greatest potential and their best life can only be achieved through letting go of fear. And fear comes in many forms. Whenever you feel anxious, tight, uncomfortable, angry, resentful or any number of undesirable emotions – there is always fear hiding under the surface. Figure out what you are afraid of and you will be able to release the negative emotion and replace it with a sense of calm and inner peace.
As an assignment, if you are interested in going deeper with yourself, identify any active “issues” you are having, anything that you feel is holding you back and then explore the “fear” that is underlying that issue.
As an example, many of us fear financial insecurity, and get anxious about money, yet we live each day with all of our needs met and, in most cases, many of our wants and desires fulfilled as well. So where does that fear come from? In our society, it comes from a deeply entrenched belief that more is better and that we are somehow superior people if we have more luxuries. But do you really believe that people who live in bigger houses and drive more expensive cars are better people? Certainly not! (See, “How Do You Define Success” at DrCatherineHansen.com, Woman2Woman Blog)
Each problem that has you stuck has an underlying fear that can be dissected and abolished.
Let’s go one step further by considering that, if you continue to strive for perfection or acquisition of “just a little more or a little better” in ANY area of your life – you are trapped in a never-ending cycle of “not enough”. The destination you are struggling to reach will never be realized and you will remain unfulfilled with an emptiness you cannot name.
Once you acknowledge what you fear you will see how that fear is unfounded and that, no matter what, everything is going to be okay – you are enough and you are beautiful and purposeful and significant exactly as you are - all you need to do is believe it.
Williamson, Marianne. 2012. The Law of Divine Compensation. Harper Collins.
Rankin, Lissa. 2015. The Anatomy of a Calling. Rodale Books.