Hello each and everyone of you! I hope your day is fabulous and that you are treating yourself with kindness and compassion. Remember, in order to have compassion for others, we must first have compassion for ourselves!
Today’s insightful and thoughtful post was written by my friend and colleague, Sue Loncaric. I truly appreciate her genuine, honest reminders to keep having fun and laughing as we are ‘Sizzling Towards 60!’ Please take a look at her website and all of the valuable health, wellness and financial resources she provides for women.
Enjoy joining Sue on the journey of Making ‘The Change a Positive One’ Catherine
MAKING ‘THE CHANGE’ A POSITIVE ONE
by: Sue Loncaric
In previous generations, Menopause was often referred to as ‘The Change of Life’ and also a time when women withdrew from society as they felt they had nothing more to offer. The subject was never discussed and women battled through the best they could with little or no support. How sad and HOW WRONG!
I’d like to give you my version of 'The Change of Life’ and how it can be a wonderful time in our lives. My motto is ‘Riding the Waves of Midlife with Positivity, Fun and Laughter’. Yes, we can feel sorry for ourselves or put up with ‘our lot in life’ or we can try to be happy and enjoy life to the full!!
In my post 'Positive Aging is Positively Wonderful’ I suggest that the way we view aging and midlife is our choice! It is up to YOU how you feel and how you live. You can be dragged down by the physical side of menopause - the hot flushes, mood swings and night sweats OR you can do something about it and enjoy life. THE CHOICE IS YOURS!
So let’s not dwell on the Negatives but rather concentrate on the Positives
We have reached midlife and that brings FREEDOM and the opportunity to CHANGE!! It can be such an exciting time!
For most of us, by the time we have reached midlife, we have become ‘empty nester’s’. Our children are off living their lives and we have more time for ourselves. Now is the time for us to do all those things we have been putting off while we were in the role of ‘Mother’ and raising a family.
I think maturity and life experience brings with it a renewed confidence. I speak with many other women who are experiencing midlife and they mostly agree that once you hit 50 your confidence starts to build and we are finally starting to know who we are as individuals. Society is more accepting that women 50+ have so much knowledge and life experience and we are valued as individuals – not someone’s partner, mother, daughter or sister.
It took me almost 50 years to start feeling good about myself. The one thing that made me feel I could do anything was when I started running and ran my first marathon (42.2km) at age 55! That experience might not be your ‘cup of tea’ but I learned so much about myself during the six months of training and during the run itself.
It was a wonderful awakening for me and a memory I will always hold dear to my heart. Gone was the self-conscious, ‘not sure if I can do this’ person to be replaced by someone who felt comfortable with who she was and knew she could handle anything life threw her way.
CHANGE is not easy at any time of life and yes there are physical changes you need to address at midlife. However, CHANGE can be good and so empowering! It challenges you and once you rise to the challenge you begin to discover who you are.
No longer do women have to accept what they don’t like about themselves or indeed others. Midlife is a time to reflect on where you have been and where you want to go and with whom you want to go.
We CAN start making POSITIVE CHANGES to our lives and doing things for ourselves. I started my blog to encourage other women in midlife to realise their potential and to live their lives in a positive way.
Here are 5 Small steps to start you on your journey of positivity
- Changing to a healthier lifestyle, making better food choices and including regular exercise.
- Trying new things – joining a group, studying, learning a language or travelling more.
- Learning the ability to say ‘NO’ without the guilt – this is something I have always struggled with as I don’t like to let people down. As we mature, we realise that we need to be more selective in what we agree to so that we can find a healthier balance in our lives.
- Have ‘me time’ to do whatever makes us happy.
- Smiling – Look in the mirror and smile, you will be surprised at how it can lift your mood.
Now is the time to fly, follow your dream and enjoy what life has to offer. It is not the time to hide and be miserable.
We have one shot at life so make the most of it – “Be the type of Person YOU would want to meet!”
What will you CHANGE in your life to enjoy your new found FREEDOM in midlife?
If you would like to read more about keeping fit and healthy, or just ‘Riding the Wave of Midlife with Positivity, Fun & Laughter’, pop over to my website I’d love to hear from you. In the meantime,……
Let’s Keep Sizzling!
Since taking early retirement, Sue found she needed more in her life and Sizzling Towards Sixty was born. Sue invites you to join her to ‘Ride the Wave of Midlife with Positivity, Fun and Laughter’
She shares her journey through midlife to encourage others to join with her in her quest to live a fit, active and fun life. Sue loves connecting with people and helping them realise their full potential to be the best they can be!
Her e-book ‘From Couchpotato to Fabulously Fit in Less Time than you Think’ has evolved into a Facebook Group #couchpotatotofabfit and encourages others to Get Healthier Together. Plans for online self-development courses are on the way.
You can follow Sue on Social Media
Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/couchpotatotofabfit/