Santa Fe Shooting

It's easy to get emotional and lay blame when something so devastating as a school shooting happens in our country. And from my perspective, it's also easy to feel, very deeply, the pain that the children of our world are living with every day.

It makes the work of empowering women and providing them a hand so they can be leaders and role models in their homes so much more important.

Women are the future.

Healthy, adult, resourced women innately understand non-violent conflict resolution, compassion and a sense of social justice. It is through feminine characteristics of connection, empathy and love that women create space for processing emotions, taming fears and extending hugs. Women run their households, raise their children and provide leadership at work. Men do too but only when they can tap into their healthy feminine side. And women need order, structure, strength and achievement-focused goals drawn from the masculine in all of us.

The world is changing and we, as powerful women, need to realize our essential role in shifting the tide. And not just for our children (the ones who live in our homes) but for ALL children. And for all adults who were once children.

When people feel alone, hopeless, isolated and unable to reach out for help it's everyone's problem.

When children take guns and kill their friends because they are so angry they feel trapped and out of options, the consequences belong to all of us.

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The Most Significant Question of 2018

While most of us have no idea how long we have to enjoy this human experience on earth, we act as if time is infinite.

It’s not.

We think we will get to the fun stuff later.

We don’t.

We believe that, after our obligations are met, we will finally have time to live our lives and bond affectionately with our family.

We never do.

Or it’s too late and they’ve left for college.

We prioritize work, schedules, money and materialism while delaying time with loved ones, self-care and connecting with core values.

When I started reading Mira Kirshenbaum’s book, “The Gift of a Year”, my first thought was that it was impossible. As I read women’s stories about how they changed their lives by gifting themselves something personally relevant, I considered all the women I knew who would benefit from such a plan, but it would never work for me. I was too busy. I had too much to do. I could never manage the time for such frivolity. And then I realized that the book had been placed in my hands for a reason and it reminded me of my friend’s question.

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The Effect of Trauma on our Children

I think about the neighbor’s story of the lasting effects of the flood caused by the 2001 Tropical Storm Allison. She related that her daughter was three years old at the time, and had to be evacuated in a small boat in torrential rain, in raging water, in the dark of night. 

Now, that child 16 years later is a young adult and still is afraid when it rains.

In the middle of this scenario are the children who certainly have had their lives impacted too. The children have had a loss of their home, their toys/possessions, their routine, some of their parent’s time, change of location and friends. 

I think about your friend Bobby and his 5 children (Watch video here). I cannot even begin to imagine what they are going through.

Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share the resources that I found concerning how to help children cope with natural disasters. I hope that the information will be useful as we interact with our families, friends, and neighbors that have been impacted with the flooding or any other disaster. Children are very resilient however it would seem that this event has left a lasting impression.

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Hell with Harvey

Only minutes later, my flight was officially cancelled, re-routed to Dallas and our family reunion plans were set in place.

Landing in Dallas late Friday night was bittersweet. It was wonderful to see my family, to be safe and “enjoying” a weekend away. It was terrifying to know that a category 5 Hurricane was approaching the Texas Coast.

We were glued to the weather channel.

Harvey made landfall for the first time near Rockport and Fulton, TX and proceeded to stall over southern Texas bringing record-breaking rainfall (up to 52 inches of rain) and flooding waterways to 500 year levels. My husband and I watched multiple on-line weather tracking graphs noting every inch of change in the rivers and bayous by our home with hour-to-hour updates. Our home was spared after this initial landfall and Saturday afternoon was eerily calm. We considered returning to Houston and several times discussed packing up and checking out of our Dallas hotel.

The rainfall continued, water elevations climbed, the death toll rose and we watched with bated breath as our street became a flowing river.

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